Here’s the REAL reason why I deleted you…
A former Facebook “friend” and Trump supporter apparently felt a way that I deleted her. Mind you, I deleted her a few days after the inauguration and either she just noticed or she’s feeling herself. Regardless, she chose to confront the issue. So this chick had the audacity to reach out to me via my FB inbox to let me know she thinks it’s sad that politics destroyed our friendship. You know that I was all up for this. First off, I was completely thrown off by the word: Friendship? Who? Where? Sis…I didn’t even know you for that long and haven’t seen you in almost two and a half years. My response would’ve normally been just a quick read but I decided to let her know the real reason why she and so many like her have been removed from my social media existence. I decided to share my response to her with you all. Sometimes you just have to finally break everything down for ignorant, clueless “ACTING” people. I say “acting” because even though I’m sure most of them get it maybe some still don’t or they just like to play dumb. They need to hear the exact reason why they were deleted, and that this was so much bigger than politics. Enjoy:
Good morning (NAME WITHHELD),
First off, let me address your question. You and I both know that politics isn’t the only reason that led to my decision of deleting you and those who have the same views as you. I’m 37 years old and for you to actually think that I don’t associate with people who share different political views as I do is a part of the problem. I think surrounding yourself with people who not only have different views, but also different opinions is a beautiful thing. It’s what makes the world go ’round. However, this was not the case and we both know you are well aware of what’s been happening even before we ourselves graced this earth with our presence and what’s still going on today.
I know you’re not stupid so this leads me to believe that you’re well aware of what’s in this country when it comes to race relations. I clearly remember you re-posting a status from one of your racist friends saying; and please don’t quote me (but you know the one): “race problems were created by people of color.” You had the NERVE to repost that? That confirmed what I pretty much figured about you. What I saw was you acknowledging the problem but blaming it on those that you pretend to be friends with. Obviously you’re okay with it and also have these views. Just because I didn’t say anything that doesn’t mean I didn’t see it. Trust and believe that one little status update didn’t lead me to come to this conclusion.
What I witnessed since we had been FB “friends” was seeing you and your friends constant disrespect of President Obama that borderlined on hate. Okay…it was extremely hateful. But you and I both know what that’s really about, don’t we? (wink, wink) I saw the comments that y’all made about him. Then you want to turn around and say the treatment of Trump isn’t American. This isn’t how WE act in the country that you love. Who’s we? Anyway…let’s talk about that. You were against any kind of protest that ever happened even before the presidency that had nothing to do with Trump. You do realize that protesting has been a part of this country for years and it’s also a freedom that ALL Americans have; including us colored ones. But your disagreement with every protest and calling the protesters every name in the book let me know that you truly don’t believe in what you say about being an American. The only thing you believe in is unless it’s a white issue there’s no issue. Don’t worry…I know plenty like you. Then for you to turn around and support Trump, who has done nothing but encourage violence against minorities, disrespected women and has built a platform on hate really sealed the deal. Many of the people who agree with his rhetoric and ignorance obviously feel more comfortable treating minorities like crap now and you for one are included my dear. You didn’t say much at first; just a little sly post or meme every now and then but after the inauguration I guess you felt more comfortable like you were protected. Is that it?
What I noticed about you is that you’re the type a white person who hangs out with black people at work and has some Facebook friends that are of different races, religions or whatever; but at the end of the day you go back home to your small, all white town and get on social media and disagree with everything, any person of color does. How dare we fight for rights that we still don’t have! How dare we have an opinion! So therefore you really don’t have any friends of color. And let’s talk about that…I remember not long after Trump became the nominee you posted a meme with 50 Cent, Puffy and Trump saying something like, and I’m paraphrasing “To those who think Trump doesn’t like black people.” So showing him with two rich black men made him an advocate for black people and proved once and for all that…”See…he does like black people!” Give me a break! That must be how you feel about your black “friends.” I hang around black people at work I have a couple Facebook friends who are black so I’m not a bad person, see I’m not racist. Is that how you feel? Girl, that means nothing. Nothing at all! I’m sure you’re the type of person who knows how many black people who you have been “friends” with your whole life. And of all places, you were born and raised in the Hilltop so you aren’t as classy as you want people to think you are and just moved from there not too long ago. I’m not going to call you white trash, but…you can probably get where I’m going with this. Just know, you aren’t far off sis.
You talk about the treatment of Trump who, just incase you missed it, in such a short period of time has done nothing but divide this country that you claim to love. This country that you claim is the greatest country on earth. What’s crazy is that I never once saw you come to the defense of President Obama, First Lady Michelle Obama, and not even their daughters when people said horrible things about them. You were joining in the fun I’m sure. But we know why, don’t we? (wink, wink). And you claim to be a great American. Oh…okay! Girl…goodnight!
You like many others who claim to have minority friends chose racism, homophobia, bigotry, misogyny, sexism, etc over what’s right. Regardless if you want to admit it or not. You can’t say that you voted for him based on his policies because he had none. The only policy he has is protecting rich, white supremacy. And that’s what you chose because that’s who you are. Since you’re sooooooo American, I’m sure you’ve noticed that I haven’t said President Trump. (It really pained me to type that out) Well, for one I don’t support him as president and secondly I never saw you or your friends say President Obama. It was always Obama, him or other names that were truly un-American.
I’ll tell you what bothers me. Is that many of you don’t understand the hurt and pain this causes. Knowing that my older relatives some of whom are no longer living, but while they were here and as long as they had and have lived as hardworking AMERICANS never had a moment of peace. NEVER! My grandfather was one of the most successful black men in the city during his career and he died not having peace. Seeing my grandmother, everyday knowing that she’s never really lived in peace as a black woman in this country is what hurts. But that’s not important to you. We’re supposed to bow down to “that’s just the way it is and has been,” pay taxes and say ‘”yes massa'” but we still aren’t allowed to speak out. You don’t know what it’s like to worry to death everyday for your baby brother who’s getting his education in a PWI (Predominately white institution aka college) but while moving in his dorm he was called a nigger and told to go home. And that’s not his first time. You don’t know what it’s like for your family, friends and yourself to not know what to expect day-to-day. To always live on the edge because we don’t know who we’re going to cross. We don’t know who had a bad day and wants to take their frustrations out on us just because the color of our skin. Knowing they have a better chance of getting away with it. I know you don’t believe that exists but I know that YOU know it does exists. So I’m sorry that your “white tears” don’t move me and make me in turn feel sorry for you. I never will! EVER!
There’s so much more that I want to say, but I’ve spent long enough on your irrelevant tears and feelings for no reason. You will continue to suffer with the rest of the country because just like us, he doesn’t care about you either. Remember that. If you don’t take anything else from my long-winded response, take in that knowing HE DOESN’T CARE ABOUT YOU EITHER!! In closing I will say this…you and your insecure, white guilt have a wonderful life. Stay in your bubble until it’s time for you to clock in and out, Monday-Friday with the “coloreds.” Then go back to your safe and secure closed off bubble to sit on the outside criticizing the rest of world for trying to progress, do better and move on.
Take care,
Danielle “Black as Ever” B.
