The blessing outweighs the curse…Part 2
Dealing With People. Yes…I’m in my feelings, yes I’m ranting and yes I’m venting! On my journey to become a better person, I’ve noticed that those who you bring into your life; can also bring you down.
Our desire for companionship, friendship…whatever you want to call it, seems to draw us more to people that may not be positive in our lives. This is because most people aren’t good people. Let’s just face it…people are trash! Just look at people who you’ve dealt with and see how they treat you and others around them. Many people are selfish and solely out for themselves. I guess in this day and age you have to be. Just don’t pretend and insult my intelligence. If you can’t see this, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you don’t deal with people like this, it may just mean that you’re one of them. I can handle these types of people now because I don’t need to depend on them. I don’t need others to validate me and make me feel special. As I’ve mentioned before and I will keep mentioning it; having bariatric surgery and seeking help for my depression and anxiety has opened my eyes to how people truly are. I never really trusted many, but now that my eyes are open wide…my trust level is almost in the negative. Even people who you may feel are there for you, just think about it…at the end of the day, they’re only for themselves. I’ve been sick and they’ll get in their feelings as to why I’m sick and how it affects what they want me to do for them. Just an example, but people who make everything about them…STAY AWAY!
If someone is truly for you and your friendship/relationship is real; you will know. Some people in their sick and twisted mind feel that EVENTUALLY telling you what someone said about you is being your friend. They feel that this is being on your side. My thing is this…if someone feels comfortable enough to talk about you to a person who you’re “cool” with, this means that your “friend” is talking shit about you too. I mean let’s just talk about where the lie is? Another thing…don’t think you’re special because they talk about or vent about their other friends and family to you because they trust you. Nope…what you need to trust and believe is that they’re talking about your ass as well. Not only to that person who they’re talking shit about to you but to others as well. Did I mention that people are TRASH!?! If someone can easily cheat on their spouse, what makes you think that they’re going to be loyal to you? I’ve recently experienced this myself. You have no shame cheating on your spouse, but I’m supposed to think that you just aren’t a shady person. And I’m not talking about shady in a good way either. I know most of you know this, but I find it sad that so many grown people are out here dealing with and trying to impress people who everyone else can see isn’t for you, but you can’t see it. Or even to those who entertain known trash bags. Now, I’m not saying that I’ve never dealt with people who I thought were my friends or those who I thought actually and genuinely cared about me. Of course, I have. I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t. However, I’m here to tell you to look out for the signs. It’s not a science and not a difficult thing to see. Then again, maybe some folks don’t care how they’re treated by others. Just as long as they feel that they belong, it doesn’t matter to them. Just my observation.
At the end of the day, I just want everyone to be happy. You don’t need others to give you that validation for your own happiness. Any validation for that matter. Don’t let others take you out of your character. Trust me…I know first hand. I refuse to keep reaching out to people who no longer do the same. I refuse to make other people comfortable to risk my own comfort. I refuse to let anyone take advantage of me. I’m staying away from shady people. We don’t need that in our lives. I plan on going into my 40’s as a much better person along with some amazing people. I’m not saying to just go around and be an ass to everyone. Just make sure you use good judgment in the company that you keep.
